Who do you spend the most time with?


“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
— Jim Rohn
This quote highlights the profound influence our closest relationships have on our attitudes, habits, and overall life trajectory. Choose your company wisely!

Who Do You Spend the Most Time With? The People Who Shape Your Life!s

Have you ever stopped for a moment and asked yourself: who do I really spend the most time with? Go ahead, take a second, and let that question sink in. It’s a simple query, but the answer holds a surprising amount of power. The people we surround ourselves with—day in and day out—aren’t just passing characters in the story of our lives. They’re the co-authors, the illustrators, sometimes even the editors. They shape ourl moods, influence our habits, and play a pivotal role in who we ultimately become.

So, let’s embark on a lively exploration together! I’ll take you through why it matters, how to identify your top influences, and how to intentionally curate your inner circle for a more joyful, successful, and meaningful life. Let’s dive in with a big, enthusiastic smile! 😀


The Power of Proximity

You’ve probably heard the phrase: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” While it might sound like one of those catchy self-help maxims, it’s rooted in some pretty solid science and common sense. Our environments—especially the people within them—have a profound impact on who we are.

Think about it: if you hang out with optimists, it’s hard not to catch a little of that contagious positivity. Spend your evenings with creative thinkers, and suddenly you’ll find your own imagination sparking in new directions. On the flip side, if you’re surrounded by chronic complainers or people who settle for “good enough,” that energy can seep into your own attitude and actions.

Our social circles are like gardens: they can help us blossom, or they can crowd us with weeds.


Who Really Gets Your Time?

It’s easy to assume we know the answer, but have you ever tracked it? Let’s break down the types of people we often spend time with:

  1. Family: Whether it’s parents, siblings, or children, family members often occupy a big chunk of our time, especially if we live together.
  2. Friends: The pals we call for movie nights, deep conversations, or spontaneous adventures.
  3. Colleagues: For many, work means hours spent with coworkers or teammates, sometimes more than with anyone else!
  4. Mentors & Role Models: Those whose wisdom we seek, whether in person, through books, podcasts, or videos.
  5. Ourselves: Yes! Don’t forget the time you spend in your own company—your inner dialogue is a powerful influence.

Take a day—or better, a week—and jot down who you interact with most. You might be surprised by the results!


The Ripple Effect: How Your Circle Shapes You

The people you spend the most time with do more than just fill your calendar. They:

  • Influence Your Attitudes: If your friends are go-getters, you’re more likely to tackle your dreams head-on.
  • Affect Your Habits: Sharing time with gym buddies might make you more consistent with workouts. Dining with foodies? You might become more adventurous with cuisine.
  • Shape Your Beliefs: Our values and beliefs are often reinforced (or challenged) by our social group.
  • Impact Your Mood: Ever notice how one person’s laughter can set off a chain reaction? Or how negativity can feel like a raincloud over your day?

The ripple effect is real. Every interaction, big or small, is like a pebble dropped in a pond—spreading outward, touching every part of your life.


Enthusiastic Self-Discovery: Who’s in Your Inner Circle?

Here’s a fun exercise! Grab a notepad and answer these with gusto:

  • Who are the five people you spend the most physical time with?
  • Who are the five people you interact with most virtually (texts, calls, social media)?
  • How do you feel after spending time with each person? Energized? Inspired? Drained? Anxious?
  • What values or habits do they bring out in you?

Reflect on your answers! Are you surrounded by encouragers or naysayers? Dreamers or doubters? Builders or bystanders?


Curating Your Circle (With Heart!)

Now, don’t worry—I’m not here to tell you to cut ties with half your contacts list! Life is about balance and compassion. But intentionality is key.

1. Seek Out Uplifting Influences

Want to be more creative? Spend more time with artists or innovators. Want to get healthier? Find a friend who loves outdoor adventures. The right people help you rise.

2. Be That Person for Others

Bring your own enthusiasm to the table! Be the friend who listens, the colleague who encourages, or the family member who inspires. Your energy is just as contagious.

3. Set Boundaries with Drainers

It’s okay to limit time with people who consistently bring you down. Protect your peace and energy.

4. Nurture the Relationships That Matter

Invest in those who make you better. Schedule regular catch-ups, send random “thinking of you” messages, and celebrate milestones together.


Don’t Forget: You Spend Time with You!

Your self-talk, your thoughts, your private moments—they matter. Make sure you’re a kind companion to yourself. Read good books, listen to inspiring podcasts, and fill your mind with positivity. After all, you’re the one person you spend every moment with!


Closing Thoughts: Choose Your Company, Choose Your Life

So, who do you spend the most time with? Are they lifting you up, challenging you to grow, and supporting your most genuine self? If not, it’s never too late to make a change. Curate your company with heart, enthusiasm, and purpose. The right people will help you become the most vibrant version of yourself.

Life’s too short for anything less than sparkling connections! Go out, embrace your tribe, and let your enthusiasm shine. The adventure awaits, and you get to choose your fellow travelers.

Stay human, stay enthusiastic, and remember: you are the company you keep! 😀


2 responses to “Who do you spend the most time with?”

  1. natasha_black Avatar

    Thank you this. I really needed to read this piece. It makes me think a lot about the people I surround myself with or the person I surround myself with. And makes me think about the kind of person I am, to others.

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